And don’t fall into the trap of saying “I love you” online if you haven’t met yet

And don’t fall into the trap of saying “I love you” online if you haven’t met yet

There are a few “tools” that help us make further determinations. We might have a picture of the person, we might have heard the person’s voice on the phone, and we might have even be able to see them on video web camera, which overrides some of the data. If the intent is to actually “meet” this person for a date, it is important for our brain to collect as much data as it can in order for us to actually feel safe enough to meet face to face. BUT, and this is a big BUT, sadly many people never have any intention of ever venturing outside the confines of their safe little homes, in order to actually meet face to face. They are finding themselves making deep rooted connections with people online, and are getting themselves into trouble by either falling in love (without the capability to take appropriate action) or they are causing others to fall in love with them (thereby, breaking hearts, right, left and center when it has evolved to the “meeting” stage and one party has no intention of doing so). Sound familiar??

We want the opportunity to love someone, and have our love reciprocated

1) Find out right up front if the person is seeking a real time relationship, or simply wants a virtual one. Many are simply filling time and have no intention on ever leaving the comfort of their own homes to meet you, no matter how close you feel you’ve become. 2) If you are considering meeting the person in person, make sure you clearly state this disclaimer: If, when we meet, one of us is NOT attracted, it must be made known, and all aforementioned plans or activities discussed are null and void. Continue reading